Let's talk about squirting. It's one of the most misunderstood, mythologized, and hotly debated aspects of female sexuality. Some people think it's the ultimate sign of pleasure, others think it's a myth, and many are just confused about what it actually is.
As someone who's explored every aspect of my sexuality without shame, I'm here to break it all down for you.
What Is Squirting, Really?
Squirting, also known as female ejaculation, is the expulsion of fluid from the urethra during sexual arousal or orgasm. The fluid is typically clear or slightly milky and can range from a small amount to a significant gush.
Here's the thing: not everyone can squirt, and that's completely normal. It's not a measure of how turned on you are or how good the sex is. It's just one of many ways bodies can respond to pleasure.
The Anatomy Behind It
Squirting is closely linked to the Skene's glands (sometimes called the female prostate), which are located near the urethra. When these glands are stimulated—often through G-spot stimulation—they can produce fluid that's expelled during arousal or orgasm.
The G-spot, that spongy area on the front wall of the vagina, is key here. It's about 2-3 inches inside and feels slightly different from the surrounding tissue.
How to Explore Squirting
If you're curious about squirting, here are some tips:
- Relax and let go: The biggest barrier to squirting is often mental. You need to be comfortable enough to let go completely, which means trusting your partner and being in a judgment-free space.
- Focus on G-spot stimulation: Use fingers, toys, or positions that target the front wall of the vagina. The "come hither" motion with fingers works well.
- Build arousal slowly: Don't rush. Take time to build arousal through foreplay, clitoral stimulation, and teasing.
- Push through the urge to pee: Many people feel like they need to pee right before squirting. This is normal—it's the sensation of the Skene's glands filling up. Try to relax and push through it.
- Protect your sheets: Seriously, put down a towel or waterproof blanket. Squirting can be messy, and that's part of the fun.
Debunking the Myths
Myth: Squirting is just pee.
Reality: While the fluid does come from the urethra and may contain trace amounts of urine, studies show it's primarily fluid from the Skene's glands. It's not the same as peeing.
Myth: All women can squirt.
Reality: Not everyone can squirt, and that's okay. Bodies are different, and pleasure comes in many forms.
Myth: Squirting equals orgasm.
Reality: Some people squirt during orgasm, some squirt without orgasming, and some orgasm without squirting. They're related but not the same thing.
My Personal Experience
I didn't squirt until I was in my late twenties. It happened during a particularly intense session with a partner who was very focused on G-spot stimulation. At first, I thought I was going to pee and almost stopped, but I pushed through the sensation and—boom—it happened.
Was it life-changing? Not really. Was it fun and messy and hot? Absolutely. Now it happens sometimes, and sometimes it doesn't. I don't chase it, but I enjoy it when it does.
The Bottom Line
Squirting is just one of many ways your body can experience and express pleasure. It's not better or worse than any other response—it's just different. If you're curious, explore it. If it's not your thing, that's cool too.
The most important thing is to approach your sexuality with curiosity, openness, and zero shame. Your pleasure is yours to discover and enjoy however you want.
